Comments for The Hero Handbook http://www.theherohandbook.com how to be a hero and change the world Thu, 10 May 2012 01:14:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on The Round Table of Whitney Johnson by Whitney Johnson Celebrating Launch Week http://www.theherohandbook.com/the-round-table-of-whitney-johnson/#comment-1731 Whitney Johnson Celebrating Launch Week Thu, 10 May 2012 01:14:47 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=569#comment-1731 [...] author and expert, posted, “Dare to Dream“:  if I had a parent on my personal Advisory Board, it would be [...] [...] author and expert, posted, “Dare to Dream“:  if I had a parent on my personal Advisory Board, it would be [...]

]]> Comment on Who Wants to be a Hero? by Heroic Moment: Who Doesn’t Want to be a Hero? | Building Heroes http://www.theherohandbook.com/who-wants-to-be-a-hero/#comment-889 Heroic Moment: Who Doesn’t Want to be a Hero? | Building Heroes Thu, 05 Jan 2012 17:03:54 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=708#comment-889 [...] My colleague and friend Matt Langdon wrote a blog post entitled, “Who Wants to be a Hero?“ [...] [...] My colleague and friend Matt Langdon wrote a blog post entitled, “Who Wants to be a Hero?“ [...]

]]> Comment on The Humble Hero Problem by Drew Jacob http://www.theherohandbook.com/the-humble-hero-problem/#comment-498 Drew Jacob Wed, 21 Sep 2011 21:38:22 +0000 http://thejanuscenter.com/herohandbook/?p=155#comment-498 I think one should neither be arrogant nor humble, but occupy some third attitude I'd just describe as being "level." That said, if they're going to mess up one way or another I find it a lot less annoying if they err on the side of being arrogant. I think one should neither be arrogant nor humble, but occupy some third attitude I’d just describe as being “level.”

That said, if they’re going to mess up one way or another I find it a lot less annoying if they err on the side of being arrogant.

]]> Comment on The Humble Hero Problem by Matt Langdon http://www.theherohandbook.com/the-humble-hero-problem/#comment-483 Matt Langdon Mon, 19 Sep 2011 17:44:20 +0000 http://thejanuscenter.com/herohandbook/?p=155#comment-483 I certainly agree that meekness has no place in a hero, but don't you think when someone who is doing something heroic explains how awesome they are essentially loses their status? I don't think being bold, confident, and honest are the same thing as un-humble. I like to think of humility as the anti-reality TV trait. Humility is not showing off. I think we both agree there, but figured I'd check. I certainly agree that meekness has no place in a hero, but don’t you think when someone who is doing something heroic explains how awesome they are essentially loses their status?

I don’t think being bold, confident, and honest are the same thing as un-humble. I like to think of humility as the anti-reality TV trait. Humility is not showing off. I think we both agree there, but figured I’d check.

]]> Comment on The Humble Hero Problem by Drew Jacob http://www.theherohandbook.com/the-humble-hero-problem/#comment-482 Drew Jacob Mon, 19 Sep 2011 17:25:20 +0000 http://thejanuscenter.com/herohandbook/?p=155#comment-482 Maybe it's because I come from a non-Christian background (we polytheists don't consider humility a virtue), but I'd say there's another sort of humble hero problem: Heroes shouldn't be humble. Humility often implies meekness, which holds one back from taking decisive action. Heroes (or wannabe heroes) should never be arrogant, but being honest and proud of their training and abilities is a good thing. When I finish a day of training at the dojo, I can honestly assess my skill level. If I was off-balance, I can say that without being humble or modest about it. If I did better than I ever have before, I can note that as a positive effect of the training and use it to guide what sort of practice I should be doing. Being bold, confident, and honest in one's skill is a trait every hero needs, in my opinion. Deferring that "it's what anyone else would do," is, on some level, dishonest. Most people wouldn't do the heroic thing, so don't try to blend into the crowd; own it, be a role model, and inspire others to follow in your footsteps. Maybe it’s because I come from a non-Christian background (we polytheists don’t consider humility a virtue), but I’d say there’s another sort of humble hero problem:

Heroes shouldn’t be humble.

Humility often implies meekness, which holds one back from taking decisive action. Heroes (or wannabe heroes) should never be arrogant, but being honest and proud of their training and abilities is a good thing.

When I finish a day of training at the dojo, I can honestly assess my skill level. If I was off-balance, I can say that without being humble or modest about it. If I did better than I ever have before, I can note that as a positive effect of the training and use it to guide what sort of practice I should be doing.

Being bold, confident, and honest in one’s skill is a trait every hero needs, in my opinion. Deferring that “it’s what anyone else would do,” is, on some level, dishonest. Most people wouldn’t do the heroic thing, so don’t try to blend into the crowd; own it, be a role model, and inspire others to follow in your footsteps.

]]> Comment on How to Crush the Bystander Effect by Matt Langdon http://www.theherohandbook.com/how-to-crush-the-bystander-effect/#comment-481 Matt Langdon Mon, 19 Sep 2011 12:30:29 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=689#comment-481 Gene, two firefighters put the fire out and then he was taken care of by paramedics. He is fine - very grateful to his rescuers. Gene, two firefighters put the fire out and then he was taken care of by paramedics. He is fine – very grateful to his rescuers.

]]> Comment on How to Crush the Bystander Effect by Gene http://www.theherohandbook.com/how-to-crush-the-bystander-effect/#comment-480 Gene Mon, 19 Sep 2011 01:43:07 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=689#comment-480 Cool video, but it bothered me that no one seemed to be helping the guy after they pulled him out. It's like they just left him there by himself. What is the end of that story? Cool video, but it bothered me that no one seemed to be helping the guy after they pulled him out. It’s like they just left him there by himself. What is the end of that story?

]]> Comment on How to Crush the Bystander Effect by Matt Langdon http://www.theherohandbook.com/how-to-crush-the-bystander-effect/#comment-451 Matt Langdon Fri, 16 Sep 2011 12:56:02 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=689#comment-451 I didn't see the press conference. Have you got a llink for it? I didn’t see the press conference. Have you got a llink for it?

]]> Comment on How to Crush the Bystander Effect by Building Heroes http://www.theherohandbook.com/how-to-crush-the-bystander-effect/#comment-450 Building Heroes Fri, 16 Sep 2011 12:27:34 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=689#comment-450 Just a fantastic example - and call to action! Did you see the survivor's news conference? Such powerful words for the heroes who saved him. Just a fantastic example – and call to action! Did you see the survivor’s news conference? Such powerful words for the heroes who saved him.

]]> Comment on The Hero is Prepared by Malee Holland http://www.theherohandbook.com/the-hero-is-prepared/#comment-443 Malee Holland Mon, 12 Sep 2011 16:55:45 +0000 http://www.theherohandbook.com/?p=646#comment-443 My, how she has grown! I've always had a talent for split-second decisions the fly - like hitting the ground, running when the proverbial $h!+ hits the fan, including assisting others in a panic - and I amaze myself hindsight, every time, since I'd never given a thought to what I'd do in those circumstances, before. Now that you've mentioned this, however, I have to wonder how my aging is going to affect this talent: I've already noticed that my driving reflexes are waning, when they used to be very sharp, so it stands to reason that my other cognitive "gifts" are going to eventually suffer, also. I used to only go through scenarios in my head that might involve brutal defense out of necessity (fighting dirty) in an emergency, as since I'm not aggressive by nature, my life may depend on it one day. As far as exercising vigilant foresight where your child is concerned, well, I think that's more of an innate, instinctual response most functional parents have. You can't really help but be precognizant with her. My, how she has grown!

I’ve always had a talent for split-second decisions the fly – like hitting the ground, running when the proverbial $h!+ hits the fan, including assisting others in a panic – and I amaze myself hindsight, every time, since I’d never given a thought to what I’d do in those circumstances, before.

Now that you’ve mentioned this, however, I have to wonder how my aging is going to affect this talent: I’ve already noticed that my driving reflexes are waning, when they used to be very sharp, so it stands to reason that my other cognitive “gifts” are going to eventually suffer, also.

I used to only go through scenarios in my head that might involve brutal defense out of necessity (fighting dirty) in an emergency, as since I’m not aggressive by nature, my life may depend on it one day.

As far as exercising vigilant foresight where your child is concerned, well, I think that’s more of an innate, instinctual response most functional parents have. You can’t really help but be precognizant with her.

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